There are those married to the type of spouse who consider it their duty to make sure their mate’s destiny becomes one of humiliation, a day-by-day shame and defeat, usually driving them to drink. This type of spouse is convinced if you don’t tell someone then nothing has happened so they chatter incessantly, apparently bamboozled at a young age by some fool into believing that talking is thinking. Those who remain with this type of spouse exhibit a somnolence, what experts unfortunately label as passivity and write books about; a criminal misdiagnosis. In a way these martyrs are like the little girl who lived off to the side for years rarely saying a word so everyone decided her odd. But one day her savior brother gathered her up to a gentle physician who took his time then said why this girl’s almost totally deaf.