what christmas feels like…

Charlie Brown: I think there must be something wrong with me, Linus. Christmas is coming but I’m not happy. I don’t feel the way I’m supposed to feel…I always end up feeling depressed.
 

Charlie Brown, our everyman. His voice gives shape to our annual dilemma. We know what Christmas sounds like, smells and looks like, but what does Christmas feel like? No doubt there would be as many answers to that question as there are people in the room. Allow me to offer mine – Christmas feels a little unhappy, slightly depressed…Christmas aches, maybe even hurts. And that’s just the way its supposed to feel because these glorious days remind us that something’s missing, that all is not well, at least not yet. The extreme responses to this reality are Eeyore or Pollyanna, two stances possible but seldom profitable. The tensioned stance, the much more human response is summed up by our trusted friend’s signature phrase: good grief.

So trim old Tannenbaum, light the candles, watch Rudolph and George Bailey, kiss long and hard under the mistletoe, make the Chex Mix, ring the bells and sing the carols (please, please sing the carols). Be profligate in your giving and go the distance to make a child’s face beam. But in all that, if you still feel a twinge of unhappiness or pangs of depression, remember that its not so much that something’s wrong, but that something’s not right, at least not yet. That’s what Christmas feels like, Charlie Brown.

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35 Comments

  1. Mandy Steward (@messycanvas) on December 13, 2011 at 1:15 pm

    Thank you for this.

    • thebeautifuldue on December 13, 2011 at 3:33 pm

      Mandy, you are welcome…thanks for stopping in.

  2. Leah Downs on December 13, 2011 at 1:28 pm

    Hi John,

    I love that tension and feel it when I see anything beautiful and fleeting like a sunset. Joy in response to beauty is generally as fleeting as the beauty and accompanied by an ache, no? It’s why I say that “bare branches” move me so much, often more than a maple in glorious bloom. The maple awaits death…but the bare branches have rounded death’s corner and are approaching new life. A reminder of what was lost, a reminder of the Hope to come. And of course I love the timeless genius of Charlie Brown via Schulz, even my young boys understand how much more profound (they call it “classic”) Charlie Browon is relative to the drivel pumped out currently. Another great post.
    Leah

    • thebeautifuldue on December 13, 2011 at 3:34 pm

      Thank you, Leah…I, too, am drawn to bare branches instead of blooms…

  3. gretchen on December 13, 2011 at 3:47 pm

    I love this so much, PonyBoy. Every scrap. Stay gold.

    • thebeautifuldue on December 13, 2011 at 3:49 pm

      You got it, Gretchen…but the gold is turning to gray…

  4. Jeanne on December 13, 2011 at 3:55 pm

    That’s lovely. We’re feeling it especially this year, the grief part.

    • thebeautifuldue on December 13, 2011 at 3:59 pm

      Jeanne, I spoke your name to the Grace that keeps this world…amen.

  5. katie on December 13, 2011 at 3:59 pm

    Yes! Good grief. Good good grief. The wait of Advent is the weight of my very life. Come, o come Emmanuel.

    • thebeautifuldue on December 13, 2011 at 11:08 pm

      Thanks for your words, Katie…it is the waiting, isn’t it?

  6. Carolyn Counterman on December 13, 2011 at 8:20 pm

    Longing for Him to come, for the grief to end… what wonderful day that will be!

    • thebeautifuldue on December 13, 2011 at 11:06 pm

      Carolyn, sometimes I wonder what we’ll do when the grief ends…

      • Carolyn Counterman on December 13, 2011 at 11:15 pm

        I don’t have to be able to imagine it with my finite mind. I just know that it is going to be better!

  7. whimzie on December 13, 2011 at 9:17 pm

    As Lucy said to Schroeder when he finally got Jingle Bells right, “THAT’S IT!”

    Yep. That’s it.

    • thebeautifuldue on December 13, 2011 at 11:07 pm

      Thanks, Amy…the Schroeders often help us keep things moving.

  8. Ann Kroeker on December 19, 2011 at 12:05 am

    You know how to put a finger on the things so many of us can’t (or won’t) quite articulate.

    Thanks for reminding us to acknowledge the reality of “not quite right” while we enjoy all that we can as we wait.

    Love this so much, John. I’d like to highlight it at our HCB Community “Featured Posts” page at TheHighCalling.org. Look for a little snippet on Wednesday that points here.

    • thebeautifuldue on December 19, 2011 at 5:16 am

      Groovy, Ann…thanks so much.

      • Ann Kroeker on December 21, 2011 at 9:22 pm

        Thanks for writing this, to free those who feel the ache to know that it is one of the many experiences and feelings that can accompany this season.

        The link to you is live–it went up a little late (my fault).

  9. David @ Red Letter Believers on December 19, 2011 at 3:58 am

    Sometimes, when I think about it, Christmas is marked by loss. Loss of a love, of my parents, of freinds, of memories. It’s easy to think like Charlie Brown . I agree with your analysis and love the hunt for what’s right.

    • thebeautifuldue on December 19, 2011 at 5:16 am

      David, yes, the hunt is worth it…thanks for stopping by.

  10. Steve and Lisa Stapp on December 19, 2011 at 9:08 am

    Well said, John. Charlie Brown touches our “not yet” place.

    • thebeautifuldue on December 19, 2011 at 1:00 pm

      Good Stapp folk, we miss you guys…we hope/trust all is almost well.

  11. Sheila on December 21, 2011 at 11:45 pm

    Something’s missing.

    Yup.

  12. Nancy Franson (@nancyfranson) on December 22, 2011 at 4:07 am

    Tidings of comfort and joy only make sense for those who mourn. Good grief, indeed. So glad Ann featured you over at The High Calling. Nice to meet you.

  13. Charity Singleton on December 22, 2011 at 10:11 pm

    John – Yes, YES! This is it. This is how I always feel about this time, maybe even more so next week. I’ll wonder why all the gifts and food and decorations didn’t make me happy like they used to. Problem is, they never have. Nostalgia misleads me.

    I wonder what they calling nostalgia for the future? Hope?

    Merry Christmas, John. You always know just what to say.

    • thebeautifuldue on December 22, 2011 at 10:22 pm

      Charity, yes, I believe ‘hope’ is a superb word for ‘future nostalgia’…a very merry Christmas to you too…very merry.

  14. Andrea Van Ye on December 23, 2011 at 5:13 pm

    Thank you. Well said … and oh, so true! Merry Christmas!

    • thebeautifuldue on December 23, 2011 at 5:16 pm

      Merry Christmas to you too, Andrea…thanks for stopping by.

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  16. nwhannas on December 22, 2013 at 9:37 pm

    Still love this every bit as much as ever. Still need to remember it every bit as much as I did when you first published. Thanks, John.

  17. Diana Trautwein on December 22, 2013 at 10:17 pm

    So glad you reposted this bittersweet nugget this year, cuz I missed it in 2011. I am so grateful for your voice – and Merry (a least, a little bit) Christmas to you and yours, John.

  18. hisfirefly on December 22, 2013 at 11:12 pm

    yes, this
    but we press on, right?
    knowing that He will come again
    in the blink of an eye
    making all things new again

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